Most people can't believe that after 5 years of marriage we still don't have children. What can i say? If it's meant to be it will be no matter what kind of birth control your on. Which my the way in the 5 years we have NEVER used birth control!! So I'm assuming God does not want us to have children just yet. Which is fine by us, because we did not get married to pop out kids.
I get pleasure from telling my extended family that "No we still don't have children". In our Hispanic culture one is expected to pop out a kid 9 months after they get married, and if not then you have issues. I'm very proud of my Mexican heritage, but i will no longer apologize for not having children!!!!
Monday, August 17, 2009
Sunday, August 16, 2009
how we met and got engaged
My hubby and I met in June 1993, he was 11yrs old and I was 9yrs old. We met at church in the town of Yuma, AZ. My family had just moved from Mexico and he was a military brat who had just moved from Hawaii. I don't remember what i was wearing, I don't even remember the exact date. Which still bugs me 16yrs later because I'm good remembering dates, but in a way it's amazing how it doesn't matter because I was so young when we met I don't remember what it was like not knowing him.
We hung out together a lot because our mom's were friends so we had no choice. We would have coloring contests and did some talking, but at the time my English was very limited so I did not do a lot of talking at the time, but I would eventually make up for lost time:)
His mom would usually take my sisters and me to church, so he and I usually sat in the back of his mom's suburban and on the drive to church and back home we would hold hands. It was so sweet and innocent, yet we both knew much we liked each other.
In 1997 his dad received orders to TN. I was crushed! Our mom's kept in contact for the next 4 yrs. My junior year in high school he moved back. I was so excited thinking maybe because we were older he would ask me out. I was so wrong!! he was terribly shy, and his face was full of acne. We both graduated in 2001 from different high schools, but that night we saw each other and just waved, I was trying to avoid him.
In 2003 his mom invited my family for dinner and i was not happy that my mom was making me go. He had joined the Navy and was home for 1 week. My mom told me jokingly
"You have one week to get engaged, you know you guys are meant to be married"
" I don't think so!! he is the last guy on earth I would ever marry" was my only response.
It had been 2yrs since I had last seen him and he had changed so much in those 2 yrs. His face had cleared up and he was not a skinny kid anymore, he was HOT!!! So he had my attention.
We went for a walk at the park and talked for hours it was amazing. He finally asked me out on a date! So that Monday we went out to dinner, I chose Denny's because I knew he probably did not have a lot of money since he had just gotten out of boot camp.
As were sitting there looking through the menu this was our conversation.
He said " I'm not sure if you know but i will be stationed in VA for the next 4yrs"
I said " Yes I know, why"
He said " Well because I really like you and I was hoping I could give you promise ring before i leave"
I said "What's a promise ring?"
He said "Well it's a ring pretty much saying that were together and that i will come back for you"
I said " So you give me this ring to promise to come back and give me an engagement ring, to later give me a wedding ring?"
Are your ready for this? This was his response:
"Well then lets just make it an engagement ring."
Which of course I said Yes!!! This was all before we even got our order in for our food. What the Hell were we thinking if at all, I still don't know. But so far its the best choice I have ever made, but it doesn't mean it's been easy.
We hung out together a lot because our mom's were friends so we had no choice. We would have coloring contests and did some talking, but at the time my English was very limited so I did not do a lot of talking at the time, but I would eventually make up for lost time:)
His mom would usually take my sisters and me to church, so he and I usually sat in the back of his mom's suburban and on the drive to church and back home we would hold hands. It was so sweet and innocent, yet we both knew much we liked each other.
In 1997 his dad received orders to TN. I was crushed! Our mom's kept in contact for the next 4 yrs. My junior year in high school he moved back. I was so excited thinking maybe because we were older he would ask me out. I was so wrong!! he was terribly shy, and his face was full of acne. We both graduated in 2001 from different high schools, but that night we saw each other and just waved, I was trying to avoid him.
In 2003 his mom invited my family for dinner and i was not happy that my mom was making me go. He had joined the Navy and was home for 1 week. My mom told me jokingly
"You have one week to get engaged, you know you guys are meant to be married"
" I don't think so!! he is the last guy on earth I would ever marry" was my only response.
It had been 2yrs since I had last seen him and he had changed so much in those 2 yrs. His face had cleared up and he was not a skinny kid anymore, he was HOT!!! So he had my attention.
We went for a walk at the park and talked for hours it was amazing. He finally asked me out on a date! So that Monday we went out to dinner, I chose Denny's because I knew he probably did not have a lot of money since he had just gotten out of boot camp.
As were sitting there looking through the menu this was our conversation.
He said " I'm not sure if you know but i will be stationed in VA for the next 4yrs"
I said " Yes I know, why"
He said " Well because I really like you and I was hoping I could give you promise ring before i leave"
I said "What's a promise ring?"
He said "Well it's a ring pretty much saying that were together and that i will come back for you"
I said " So you give me this ring to promise to come back and give me an engagement ring, to later give me a wedding ring?"
Are your ready for this? This was his response:
"Well then lets just make it an engagement ring."
Which of course I said Yes!!! This was all before we even got our order in for our food. What the Hell were we thinking if at all, I still don't know. But so far its the best choice I have ever made, but it doesn't mean it's been easy.
what am i doing?
I have kept journals throughout my life, but this is the first time I have ever started a blog.
I guess I feel the need to write my thoughts down and maybe someone might benefit from it. And the reason my title is Trying to get to Happily Ever After is because in the last 5yrs of marriage I have had some interesting adventures. Hopefully whatever my husband and I have gone through might also help other couples. My goal is to write down what we go through day to day and reflect on what we have gone through in the last 5yrs as well.
I guess I feel the need to write my thoughts down and maybe someone might benefit from it. And the reason my title is Trying to get to Happily Ever After is because in the last 5yrs of marriage I have had some interesting adventures. Hopefully whatever my husband and I have gone through might also help other couples. My goal is to write down what we go through day to day and reflect on what we have gone through in the last 5yrs as well.
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